Happy Mother’s Day!

By Kathy Dunnehoff

Spring Break with girls 2015

 

 

 

 

With my girls, Grace & Ava!

Happy Mother’s day to all the women who have cared for and about others. I feel confident that’s all of us!

We may not have all held a crying baby all night, but we’ve still mothered plenty. We’ve hugged and held hands, gotten after and gotten silly with the people we love. We’ve said, “I understand.” Or “I don’t understand, but I want to.” And when completely necessary, “Knock that off right now!”

I hope too that we’ve let others mother us on occasion. I hope that we’ve cried and complained to someone who takes our side no matter what and later is honest enough to tell us we have the power to change what needs changing.

I hope that we all have someone in our lives who won’t let us get away with being too hard on ourselves or saying, “I’m fine” when we’re not, or settling for less than we deserve.

 This Mother’s Day may we keep on sharing our unique gifts with others and also happily accept a few in return.

Kathy

P.S. If you’re in the Flathead Valley, join me on Wednesday May 13th at 6:00 at the Lakeside Library for a talk on “Agents, Editors, and Amazon… Oh, My!”

Ch…ch…ch…ch…changes

By Kathy Dunnehoff

Well, this title is from the David Bowie song “Changes” which has been rolling around in my head for a while. It seems that I’m in one of those stages of life where a lot is changing, whether I want it to or not. Many of the changes, like spring springing, are good ones. I’m happy to be in a new decade of life and hope I get a bunch more. I’m happy that my girls are growing into amazing young women. I’m happy that my husband and I get date nights, and we only have to worry about the dog.

Some people are big fans of change. I have a friend who loves change so much, she sleeps different ways in her bed just to get another view. This is what I’d like to be able to do in the face of change…

“Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”  Lao Tzu

But instead of channeling ancient wisdom, I’m more of a Garth from the movie “Wayne’s World.” (Typical that I would feel like a low budget comedy.)

Wayne's world We Fear Change

I know, I know! I shouldn’t fear change. I should embrace it, celebrate it, get all Zen with it. And I will. Eventually. But for right now, I’m going to enjoy the change of winter to spring but drag my feet a little bit about everything else.

Happy Spring!

Kathy

(If you’re interested in making a change in your writing life, I’ve got some classes coming up at Flathead Valley Community College and that won’t change 🙂

Writing in the Workplace     (1 session)

  • Grammar Refresher – April 28           12-1:30 p.m.                              $20
  • The Easy Writing System – May 5 12-1:30 p.m.                              $20
  • Editing Tips & Tricks – May 12 12-1:30 p.m.                              $20

Introduction to Screenwriting     (4 weeks)

Learn the fundamentals from ideas to scenes to understanding the basic structure of a screenplay.

Tuesdays               May 5-May 26                           6-8:30 p.m.                      $64

Everyday Creative Writing      (4 weeks)

With guided exercises, it’s easy to capture everyday creative writing.

Mondays                June 8-June 29                          2-4 p.m.                           $54

The Write Plan     (1 session)

Develop the business skills necessary to help your writing career succeed!  Learn to track finances, prioritize key resources and activities, and identify and utilize avenues to get to your readers.

Tuesday                 June 16                                     5:30-8:30 p.m.                 $45

Register online www.fvcc.edu or call the Continuing Education Center (406) 756-3832

 

 

 

5 Gifts To: YOU From: YOU

By Kathy Dunnehoff

The day after Valentine’s Day you may have leftover chocolate…

lucy and ethel chocolate

or flowers you’re still enjoying, but why not put yourself on the February gift list?

Here are my 5 suggestions for presents To: YOU  From: YOU…

  1. Watch Amy Cuddy’s TED talk on body language. It’s moving and wonderful and may just change your life.
  1. You know how bubble baths are yawningly common? Step it up with bath salts. I make my own for next to nothing with Epsom salt and a scented oil.
  1. Spend 30 minutes with the combination of your choosing: A beverage + A comfortable spot + Something you love to read.
  1. Look in the mirror once today and do not laser in on something you don’t like. Appreciate something you love. You can do this!
  1. You know the red cars phenomenon? If I suggest that you notice red cars, you’ll suddenly see them everywhere. Well, make a list of 3 things that make you happy and actively look for them. My 3 right now are: 1. Seeing signs of spring.  2. Moments when I’m laughing with my family.  3. Times when the writing flows.

Happy post Valentine’s Day gifting to you!

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Resolutions and fuzzy pants

By Kathy Dunnehoff

slippers before writing

Resolution – “A course of action decided upon.”

 Well, I’m a planner, a BIG planner. I’m also capable of great stretches of time in fuzzy pajama bottoms watching Netflix, so don’t give me too much credit. Still, I spend January 1st, also my birthday, setting my goals for the year.

I don’t think of my yearly plan as a resolution, but it is definitely a course of action, broken down month by month, of my writing goals and often personal ones as well. But unlike most resolutions, mine do not make me feel awful when I fail to achieve them. And believe me, I will not even come close to hitting my goals for 2015. I never do.

 So, how can setting yearly goals and not hitting them make me happy? I’ll tell you how it works for me…

  1. Set goals that in a perfect world could be achieved, so you can see what’s possible in the best of possibilities.
  1. Accept that it’s not a perfect world and do not blame yourself for the flu that hits every member of your family one at a time in March when you were really close to checking off a lofty goal.
  1. Adjust to the reality of the current circumstances and change your goals going forward from there. Goals, resolutions, plans… they are written in pencil that is easily erased, ink that can be whited out, or a computer screen with a backspace button. Your goals are alive and growing just like you are, so change them when you do.
  1. Look back on the week or month or year and notice what you have accomplished. Did you make a smidge of progress? Then write that down too. I keep a small “Ta-Da!” journal where I occasionally write down not what I need to do but what I have done. Or take a minute and write yourself a thank you note, “Kathy, I’m so proud of you for writing that one paragraph the month that even the dog had a cold.” Then pop that thank you note in the mail and be pleasantly surprised when it arrives in your mailbox.

That’s all my wisdom about making and keeping resolutions… dream big and be really nice to yourself. If we meet no other goals for the New Year, let’s make sure we manage these two!

Happy New Year,

Kathy

 

 

You’re Never Too Old for Halloween!

Halloween 1984 (2)By Kathy Dunnehoff

 

I have always loved dressing up for Halloween. That’s not unusual for a kid, when I went as a teddy bear or Pippy Longstocking with wires in my braids to get them to curl upright. But when it comes to Halloween, I just never got over it.

In college I would pull a costume together at a thrift store in no time. The photo on the left is Halloween 1984 when I found a pair of white go-go boots and went out dancing looking like an extra on Laugh-In. The next year? A toga. The next year? Marlo Thomas on That Girl.

As an adult I’ve worn chicken bones in my hair, a mud mask on my face, and taken my children trick or treating as a “cave mom.”

The surprise to me is that my husband is now on board. Several years ago he donned a disco wig and leather pants, so I countered with a blonde Hannah Montana wig and pleather pants left over from an 80’s party, and we embarrassed our daughters by going door to door in our neighborhood.

halloween 2010 (2)The next years…

Morticia & Gomez Adams from The Adams Family

Morticia & Gomez Adams from The Adams Family

Ozzie & Harriet (But the Ozzie is heavy metal Ozzie Osbourne :)

Ozzie & Harriet (But the Ozzie is heavy metal Ozzie Osbourne 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The question for this year… What theme can I come up with that allows me to dress up the dog too?

When I figure it out, I’ll post photos on my FB page… facebookHappy Reading & Happy Halloween!

Kathy